What Ruggedman Thinks About Babymamas
Nigerian rapper, Michael Ugochukwu Stephens popularly called Ruggedman has revealed to the media what he thinks about the new baby mama trend.
Ruggedman who is of the opinion that any woman who decides to have a child out of wedlock is shameless and lacking morals. According to him, rather than have a baby mama he would go for adoption.
Speaking about Eedris Abdulkareem’s statement of those celebrities who have baby mamas regretting it, disagreed with him, stating that they only regret it when they don’t have the resources to take care of the child.
“I’ve never been an advocate for baby mama. One of the things I vowed in this life is never to have a child out of wedlock,”
“And, saying they will regret it depends. Because the son of a millionaire who has a baby mama definitely will not regret it, you understand? But it’s only a hustling guy who hasn’t even made any money yet, who doesn’t have any plans, those are the kind of people who at the end of the day will regret it. Bottom line, what I’m trying to say is, any guy who is well to do, who has a good job, be it in entertainment or nine to five, and you have a steady income, and you have a baby mama – at least maybe not too many, if you have one or two, fine – you should be able to take of yourself. Especially if God helps you, your baby mama is actually someone who works too. Because if you have the type of baby mama that doesn’t do any job and just looks up to you for whatever money you give her, then you’re in trouble. If a man who has a steady income has a baby mama and plans well, I don’t think he will suffer.”
He went on to criticise women who get pregnant without getting married, saying it was never obtainable in times past.
“Morally, it’s not right for me, I don’t know how the younger guys are growing up these days. When I was coming up I knew a lot of good and bad. I knew a lot of dos and don’ts and it’s so unfortunate that nowadays girls get pregnant and they don’t… Back in the days, a girl will get pregnant and she’ll want to kill herself out of shame and embarrassment and all but nowadays, girls get pregnant and they really don’t care. I don’t know if I should say they are now shameless; no morals. You see a lot of girls nowadays, they have baby showers but they don’t have husbands. They’re trying to make it look as if it’s a normal thing for an unmarried female to have a baby. It is not normal. Any young girl out there listening to me, it is not the normal thing for you to get pregnant and have a child out of wedlock. It is not normal. It is shameful and it is some serious disrespect to your family. Even if your social media friends make it like it’s OK, it is not.”
When asked if he has a child somewhere that no one knows of, he laughed it off, saying:
“In this day and age of social media you’ll not know? What is it we do on social media that you people don’t know? Anybody with a smartphone is a media person. Like I said, I grew up in a different era. I grew up in a time when people respected their parents, when people respected culture, when people had morals and that’s what I still maintain. Basically, I vowed not to have kids out of wedlock and I’m still holding onto that. But by God’s grace that will change soon, meaning madam will soon come, pikin will soon come. “
When asked when he will get married and he said it will happen soon.
“Madam-wise, I’ve not been too lucky with madams,” he said. “A lot of women look at me and they go, ‘nice guy, nice guy, handsome guy, how can you not have a girlfriend?’ And that has been my problem.
“I was in a relationship two years ago but it turned out… Of course, I’ll not let you people know. Why will I let you people know? I keep my privates private. I’ve been single for two years. I was single for way longer. I’ve been single since Isio. The only other person I tried was this other chick and she ended up being very funny. We were on for like two years. Apparently, she had a so-called best friend who doesn’t stay in the country. I found out the best friend was a guy which I didn’t like because I don’t think the opposite sex can ever be best friends without something happening or have happened already. And then, she was now like she wants me to be cool with the best friend and I’m like, why do you want me to be cool? You don’t have tell me now. So, immediately, that just sent alarm bells ringing only for me to find out her best friend is a guy. Later on, I did more probing and found out her best friend who is a guy is her ex-boyfriend. And of course, I was the X in the equation that they had to find because I left sharply and now, they are together.
“Most of the women that I’ve met after Isio always have it at the back of their minds that I’m not taking them seriously. Even when I’m doing everything that I can to show them I’m taking them seriously. So every small thing, they’ll go ‘ehen, I said it, I said it.”