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Nigeria police accused of advising man to retaliate against abusive wife

The Nigeria Police Force faces accusations of encouraging a man to engage in domestic violence with his abusive wife after a series of complaints at the station. A user on the microblogging platform ‘X’ identified as @Baaboosa1 called out the Nigeria Police, asserting how they performed poorly in their duties. The user claimed that a man who reported his wife for domestic abuse was allegedly advised by the police to retaliate by hitting her back. He further asserted how advice to quit the marriage would have sufficed other than gearing him up for war against his wife at the expense of their lives. “Nigerian police are bad at all their jobs. This man gets his wife arrested every time she hits him. Now, the police are advising him to start hitting her back. They didn’t tell him to leave her o, they gave him an advice where one of them is likely ending up dead,” he wrote.

Lady cries out for help over abusive baby daddy who is after her life

A South African lady cries out for help at the hands of her abusive baby daddy who wouldn’t stop threatening and stalking her. A user on the microblogging platform, X identified as @lavida_queen opened up on the life of domestic abuse she has been living.

In a series of posts, the mother of one documented how her baby daddy turned her into his punching bag and despite relocating and changing numbers, he finds a way to reach her every time. She further she some pictures capturing different levels of injuries sustained from her ex-partner who takes joy at causing her pain. She added that the police effort has proved abortive so far. The abusive baby daddy “For the past few months I have been running for my life as my abusive baby daddy won’t let me be, he’s been harassing me online and stalking me everywhere. 5 months ago he broke into my old apartment and stole all my belongings, my clothes, shoes, bags, hairs and items for sale. This guy won’t stop, he’s constantly sending me threats and using different WhatsApp accounts to text me, he won’t return my things too…. I’m really tired twitter help me cos the police are not helping,” she wrote. See her posts below …

I have changed apartments 3 times this year alone all short lived for 3 months or 4, I’m a business owner and some people do pick up, he stalks and harasses my friends too…,. These are messages he sent to a friend of mine, threatening and bullying her. pic.twitter.com/GLGe6fuBVT — freshly baked (@lavida_queen) December 7, 2023

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Woman teaches self defense to married colleagues in abusive marriages

A Nigerian woman takes time from her busy schedule to teach self defense to her fellow married colleagues in abusive marriages. A video making the rounds on social media captured a TikTok user identified as @sweettoto.a.k.a.asagold who showed off some moves used against her husband.

In the video, the woman could be heard emphasizing ‘never backing down’ when faced with a toxic husband. Showing some defensive moves against an abusive man, the woman in question urged women to stand up for themselves. “Married women, no dey run for your husband because of say e dey beat you. Wetin you do be say you go set yourself like this, mount blow; as your husband dey come before he go give you one, take him down and pull his teeth,” she said in part. Reactions trailing self defense from trainer against abusive marriages Igbago Queen stated: “Since covid 19, no one has been normal in this world ooo😂😂😂😂😂.” Temitope💋❤💋 noted: “That is why I prefer buying data than buying land 😂😂.” Rukkyken71 penned: “This is why I can’t marry from Warri even though I am from Delta🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.” mercymaxwell400 wrote: “so any time we are fighting with our husband we should wear sucker pant, abi.” Chinecherem noted: “it’s a blessing when you don’t have a family member that disgrace you online 🤦🤦.” Watch the video below … @sweettoto.a.k.a.asagold ♬ original sound – Sweet toto

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“Ladies are still in abusive marriages because of sex and sharwama”

Popular talent manager and producer, Soso Soberekon has shared his opinion on why some ladies still live in abusive marriages.

The talent manager, Soso is known for sharing motivational quotes and sharing his opinions on every day life issues on his social media page. According to Soso, most ladies are still living with their abusive husbands because of the goodies they buy for them after abusing them. He mentioned some stuff like sharwama, catfish pepper soup, Nkwobi and above all sex. He wrote on his page, “A man who beats you in a relationship can kill you in marriage. But penis, sharwama, catfish pepper soup,Nkwobi & Goodies will not let you have sense.”

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Why I stayed in abusive marriage despite being manhandled on wedding night — Foluke Daramola

Nollywood actress, Foluke Daramola-Salako opens up on her reasons behind the decision to persevere through her abusive marriage.

During a recent interview with TVC, the actress who is now remarried disclosed that she saw the signs but could not leave. Foluke Daramola added that was abused even on the night of her wedding. Despite being subjected to constant abuse by her ex-husband, the mother of two stayed in the marriage for four years. When asked, she revealed that she feared facing criticism. Foluke Daramola on Staying in Abusive Marriage “My first marriage, on the night of my wedding was when I noticed abuse. But because of what people will say… And God has already orchestrated it because my wonderful kids are from the marriage. “When I finally decided to step out [of the marriage], people did not understand why I stepped out. But I understood that I needed to go. A lot of people did not receive it well, but if I hadn’t stepped out, if I had died there, by now I would have been a forgotten case. “So, it is better for people not to accept my reality or my truth but I accept my own truth than for me to lose my life in the process of trying to prove to the world what I’m going through.”

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My abusive ex would always starve himself to make me forgive him

A Nigerian lady has revealed how she survived getting abused severally by her ex-boyfriend. The young woman revealed that while in the relationship with her ex, everything was great until she caught him cheating on her, and when she tried to leave, he turned violent and choked her until she almost passed out. Despite her struggle, she managed to break free from his grip. But he continued to beg and plead for her forgiveness, even going so far as starving himself to make it look like he was broken and remorseful. However, she knew deep down that he would never change, and she decided to leave him for good. Two years later, she found someone who was everything her ex was not. He was kind, gentle, and would never hurt a fly. She knew that she had made the right choice, and she vowed never to fall for the same kind of trap again. Looking back, she couldn’t help but feel sorry for any woman who would fall for her ex’s charm and end up trapped in a cycle of abuse. She hoped that someday he would change, but deep down she knew that he was beyond redemption. She wrote:
“Marry someone that’s empathetic and has self-control, especially self control. I caught my ex cheating, he choked me till I almost passed out, I just freed myself for him because the more I struggled the harder his grip, when he finally let me go, he went down on his knees crying and begging, this beast doesn’t care where he’s kneeling and begging 0, he’d starve himself for days to look hungry a d broken, just so I’d forgive him, My mind was made up already. he’s still beqging me two years later, meanwhile I’m now married to someone that can’t even hurt a bird. Just one sign is enough to leave guys, don’t let these actors deceive you. if he hits you once he’ll do it again, they can’t change. I pity the woman that will fall in my ex’s trap & May God help her.” See the post below:

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“Walk away from abusive relationships before it’s too late” – Juliet Ibrahim advises as she opens up on surviving domestic abuse

Famous Ghanaian actress, Juliet Ibrahim has advised people suffering domestic abuse in their relationships to walk away.

The socialite said this while responding to a fan who asked for her opinion on domestic abuse in relationships.
“Hello queen, pls what is your honest take on domestic violence? Stay and pray for change or walk away,” the IG user queried.
In response to the question, Juliet Ibrahim revealed that she too had been a victim and others should exit from such relationships just as she did.
She advised the lady to have an exit strategy because she herself had fought her way through with one and also had an external help.
“Walk the hell away girl, I have been a victim myself, no staying. I fought my way out of situations and one has to be strategic about it as well. And have someone you can trust on the outside to inform and you both plan your escape and exit before it’s too late,” she said.

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Lady set to marry abusive partner over fear of being asked to return engagement ring, other gift items

Young lady set to tie the knot with an abuser over the fear of losing her engagement ring and other gift items he ever got her.
According to the narration of a Twitter user simply identified as @Vickisparkle_, an acquaintance of hers once called crying to narrate the hurt she is going through in her relationship.

Adding to her point, Vicki stated that despite the advice to the embattled lady on how to dump the abusive partner, she, however, pressed on to plan a marriage with him.

“This babe called me on Sunday crying. Saying every time she and her man have an heated argument, he always threatens to collect the proposal ring, phone he got her and some clothes he got her. I told her to leave the guy and focus on getting a job as all this shit happened bcos she depends entirely on the guy.
“She said, ‘Okay, I think that’s the best thing, I’m tired of being humiliated at every turn.’ Well, they’ve reconciled for the umpteenth time and they are moving forward with the wedding plans I wish them both good luck! tying the knot with her lover despite all warning signs,” she wrote.

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Woman in abusive marriage gives kudos to husband despite many failed attempts to cheat back on him

Woman in dilemma narrates the situation of her abusive marriage at the hands of a cheating husband with whom she intends to spend the rest of her life.
In a chat with a relationship adviser, the embattled woman narrates the ups and downs in her marriage as she takes steps toward revenging on her husband who cheats a lot.
According to the woman, despite the effort to find a man outside her marriage to give her happiness, it turns out that no man can match her husband’s skill in bed.

Read the full narration below …
“My husband and I have fought several times because he cannot keep his manhood in one place. He beats me when I complain. I will not lie. My man beats the living hell out of me.
So at a point, I stopped complaining and decided to cheat on him as well. But all the men I have met so far, no man seems to match his s-xual stamina.
They just want to satisfy themselves with their small thing and go. But my husband, that man is a dog in bed. And I like it. That is why I can’t leave him no matter what.
If he gives me pain in the morning, at night he is there to give me pleasure. And guess what I love the most? When we fight when making love. He r-pes me sometimes, slaps me and it makes everything sweet in the end.”

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Woman in an abusive marriage cries out for advice over fear of leaving as a result of stiff economy

Embattled woman in an abusive marriage cries out for help as she expresses fear of leaving as a result of the country’s economy.

In a lengthy narration shared through a relationship adviser, the woman has reached the height of emotional trauma but still does not know how to liberate herself.
“Good day madam, I will like to confide in you, i am a HND holder, i am a business woman, legally married, my marriage will be 11 years this year. I am blessed with two wonderful boys age 10 and 5, my husband had a good job he is a responsible husband when it comes to taking care of the house.
The problem started when we relocated from one state to another state, recently alot has happened in my life, I have told my mum, siblings several time all they kept saying is that I should keep on enduring, psychological, physically, mentally, emotional I am drained I have been used and dumped nothing is left on my body.

The reason why I was so pained and hurt so deeply was because I have alot of opportunities to cheat on him if i wanted to but I never for once in my life cheated on him and God can bear me witnesses no side attraction at all.
I have built my entirely life on him to the extend that I can’t do anything without him knowing,in order for us to have a better life I have aborted like two times for him after given birth to my two sons I hope God will forgive me for risking my life for the person that doesn’t worth it.
Have been condoning alot of shit in my marriage since last year my husband cheated on me with his staff, it was as if they use a knife to stab my heart to pieces, my husband does not have any respect for me at all, so proud and full of himself, he will starve me with sex, he can never say sorry.
I have been the one that always says sorry to him in order for peace to reign because I hate keeping malice, he always make decision by himself without consulting me it is what they told him outside that he will …………..”
Read the full narration in the snapshot below …

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